Why

Why can’t I dial it down, be less?
All I have in me is what is present. What is present in me is whole. I can’t be less than whole. I can’t be less than whole for someone I care about deeply, whose presence remains in me.

TFTD

Yep.
  If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse; [...]

Meditation

I.
I am an onion, full of layers, all interconnected.
II.
I am a chain, all of its loops interconnected.
III.
I have a rich, deep vein of love that courses through me. I love the way it feels as it flows through me. I could cut that off, starve it. Starve me.
IV.
Instead, I nourish that vein. I enlarge it. [...]