Hear ye, hear ye

I can’t remember if I posted this (it’s bedtime, and i’m too lazy to check), but herewith, via here, is an introvert’s bill of rights. Please read and consider, won’t you? Lest the person you think is socially retarded, considers you the same way…

  • Introverts reserve the inalienable right to refuse any and all invitations without repercussions or hurt feelings and with the universal understanding that we don’t mind being asked (not cajoled, mind you), and want others to continue asking, because there’s always a chance we’ll accept.
  • Introverts have the right to claim a sacred space of their own for recharging, rebalancing or simply enjoying themselves in a way of their choosing.
  • Introverts have the right to leave social events early or not show up at all, depending on how they’re feeling at the moment and without fear of losing a friend because of it.
  • Introverts are not “anti-social.”  Instead, we thrive on quiet introspection and deep thought.  We do enjoy the occasional soiree or gathering, but those are the exception rather than the rule.
  • Introverts are typically much more sensitive to the world around them than others.  It’s almost like a form of autism, except our minds don’t shut down with too much stimulation.  Rather, we retreat to our safe place to center ourselves.
  • Introverts prefer a few good friends rather than a lot of acquaintances.
  • The internet was designed by an introvert for introverts.  It’s the perfect medium for us. Don’t be offended if we don’t always return phone calls, but tend to prefer email.
  • Introverts don’t need to be “cured” or brought out of our shells.  We like our shells.  They’re pretty.
  • Introverts don’t enjoy being forced into commiting.  If we say, “Can I get back to you on that?” it’s not rejection, but rather a real attempt to determine whether if we decide to commit, we’ll actually show up. And if we’re forced to commit, we reserve the right to not show up without having to make up an excuse.
  • Introverts reserve the right to “just say no” without angry backlash.
  • “Meeting the right person” usually means another introvert, not a blind date with cousin Matthew or your sister Ava.  Stop trying to set us up.  We’re not socially retarded, but prefer social situations that are well suited to our temperament.  Non-introverts tend not to understand this.
  • Introverts are not “stupid” just because we don’t always speak up.  We tend to be very intelligent and don’t always feel the need to prove it.  Some of the most brilliant minds of the past four centuries tended toward introversion, including Einstein.  Many creative types are introverts.
  • Introverts are fiercely protective of their sacred space.  If you don’t want to get stung, don’t poke a stick into a hornet’s nest.

2 thoughts on “Hear ye, hear ye

    • Christian, thanks for writing that bill of rights–it’s good food for thought for introverts and extroverts, too.

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