I’ve been thinking about needs and wants for a while, and I come down on the side wants. Needs, to a certain extent, connote neediness. “I need the car, the clothes, the house, the relationship, or else my life is incomplete.”
We are complete as we are. Yet we struggle with the perceived holes in our lives. Instead of needing the material, we should want the intangible–to be better to each other and ourselves. What we can’t buy, beg for, or plead for. What we have to work diligently for. The seemingly boring, mundane stuff that one day wakes us up and reminds us that we were whole in the first place.
It seems that life is about starting out whole, losing that sense, and regaining it.