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Here is another list of myths about introverts, copied from a listserv I belong to. The last one is important–my fear is that someone, someday, will come up with a “cure” for introversion. And life for a many, many people will grow a little darker.
Myth #1 â€“ Introverts donâ€™t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just donâ€™t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they wonâ€™t shut up for days.
Myth #2 â€“ Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They donâ€™t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Donâ€™t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 â€“ Introverts are rude.
Introverts often donâ€™t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 â€“ Introverts donâ€™t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, youâ€™re in.
Myth #5 â€“ Introverts donâ€™t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just donâ€™t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, donâ€™t need to be there for long to â€œget it.â€ Theyâ€™re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 â€“ Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they donâ€™t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 â€“ Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They donâ€™t follow the crowd. Theyâ€™d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They donâ€™t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 â€“ Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. Itâ€™s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, itâ€™s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 â€“ Introverts donâ€™t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 â€“ Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot â€œfix themselvesâ€ and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.