From the quickly-becoming-invaluable Facebook page Introverts Are Awesome…
Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.
I am a very dangerous man. Extremely dangerous. And not just because my middle name starts with a D.
I recently told a woman that I’m at the point in my life where I don’t have any holes that need to be filled by a woman. Probably not the brightest thing to say–maybe it should have been stated more elegantly. But tis true. I’m fine alone. I enjoy my solitude. And I enjoy being in the company of a woman. But I’m with her to be with her, not to salve some pain, or to fill a gaping hole in my soul or psyche. And that goes against the grain of a lot we’re shown/taught to think and feel here. The quote above is really dangerous because it cuts against the grain of popular thought, popular feeling. We should not force ourselves, or others, to feel and be things for the sake of fulfilling empty shells and stereotypes. We should guide and help the ones we love to be their best.
One can always hope.